Is marriage outdated?


Has Marriage had it's big day?
Has Marriage had it’s big day?

Every day I trawl the web looking for interesting articles to bring to your screen. Tonight I happened to chance across an article called…
” Do we need Black Mariage Day?” Personally, & I have to be honest here, I hadn’t actually heard of the initiative and so proceeded to read the whole article.

The author made the assertion that there was a general marriage crisis, amongst all ethnic groups, not just African Americans.  Reading further the article Quoted a piece by Joy jones in the Washington Post entitled, ‘Marriage Is for White People’

Personally I was shocked just by the title, but had to read the article because so many journalists use the headline to lure you in, hiding the fact that the main thrust of the article isn’t at all what you might have believed by the Headline.

Jones goes on to Quote the Black feminist Alice Dunbar-Nelson;
“Why should well-salaried women marry?”

Making the point that these days women have no real NEED to marry, as they are financially self sufficient.  Furthermore all the old benefits of marriage are now mostly attainable for women without the baggage any man might bring with him.  I find the whole debate fascinating.

Are you Married?  Do you intend to be…Or, if you have been married before would you marry again?   Given that there is a massive dropoff in Marriage rates within the African American Community.

In 2001, according to the U.S. Census, 43.3 percent of black men and 41.9 percent of black women in America had never been married, in contrast to 27.4 percent and 20.7 percent respectively for whites. African American women are the least likely in our society to marry. In the period between 1970 and 2001, the overall marriage rate in the United States declined by 17 percent; but for blacks, it fell by 34 percent.

How do you feel about Marriage yourself?  Do you think that marriage is an outdated institution or do you feel that marriage still has a strong role to play within the developmrent of STRONG communites?  I’m keen to know what you think?

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2 thoughts on “Is marriage outdated?

  • 25th March 2009 at 10:52 pm

    I believe marriage is outdated and no longer necessary. However, there are various reasons why some couples might marry. In terms of health benefits, retirement benefits & inheritance laws, many companies & insurance agencies require that a couple is married to receive benefits. Many laws have changed but even today, you cannot designate that someone whom you are not married to can receive your retirement benefits. In most cases, you have to be married 10 yrs if you want to qualify for your spouse’s retirement benefits. I’ve been living in “sin” for several years and we are deliriously happy together. But we worry about and have to consider things like life insurance & home ownership because legally, couples living together do not have the same rights as married couples. I think its wrong and forces people to marry who normally would not marry. If my partner and I do marry, it will be for legal reasons not love. And we will not feed into the capitalist/consumer driven affair that marriage has become in our culture and get married in a church. No thank you!

  • 25th June 2011 at 8:14 am

    I just think marriage is not a cultural value for most black women. I don’t know why, it’s just not something they care about. The media tries to make them care far more than they actually do.


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